So I legit had 3 Christmases.
The first was at Jamie's house in West Springfield for brunch. We had omelets. It was me, Jamie, her hubby and two kids, her sisters Mandee and Ashley and their hubbies and kids. Presents, food, laughter. No drama.
Second xmas was at Jamie's in-law's house in Southwick. Beforehand I went and saw "The Guilt Trip" Pretty full house. Presents, food, laughter. No drama.
Third xmas was at Alice's parents' house in Concord NH. The drive was 3 hours one way. Very small and intimate gathering. Presents, food, laughter. No drama.
The best part about all three of these xmases was no drama. Laughter. I stopped caring about those that don't care about me :)
update: my body basically shut down on me. It's Thursday and I'm sick. I def should've taken a day to just relax. Because I didn't I'm hurting bad. At home trying to catch up on sleep.
the one about douchebags
So I was driving home tonight and realized MY GOD I'm surrounded by douchebags. This stemmed from a Facebook incident with someone I've known for some time who's a habitual douchebag that I just didn't realize how big of one he was until today.
What's a douchebag you ask? I think there are many versions.
What I began to realize is I spend far too much time on douchebags. Being nice. Being funny. Including them in my jokes both at home and work. 2013 I need to stop. I need to stop turning the other cheek and just simply walk away.
The past three days I have spent away from my house away from the original douchebags (my mother and half brother; oddly enough my mother is the only real female douchebag I've ever met). I did have a conversation with a friend this weekend. He was telling me the douchebaggery of a mutual friend. My jaw hit the floor. Some of the things this mutual friend was doing I just couldn't believe. Underhanded. Manipulative. I was in shock. My heart hurt over it. WHY do people do this?
A challenge for myself starting to day is ridding myself of douchebags. It's pretty easy to spot a douchebag too. As I sit here and go over the inventory of guys I'm friends with in my head I have at least 20 off the bat I need to dedouchebag myself from. This shall be my mission :)
What's a douchebag you ask? I think there are many versions.
- Someone who goes out of his way to put you down or make you feel bad.
- Someone who's CLEARLY wrong about something and doesn't admit it.
- Someone who thinks every statii positive or negative on Facebook is about them.
- Someone who can't laugh even when a situation calls for it.
- Someone when you tell them you are offended by their brand of humor continues to "joke" with you and then questions why you ignore them.
- Someone no matter how many ways you explain it will never see your point, but you can see theirs.
- When more than one straight guy get together douchebags emerge.
- Anyone who's first name is meant to be a last name like Anderson or Channing.
- Victor Newman from "The Young and The Restless."
- High School/Family/Work bullies.
- Brett Ratner, Perez Hilton, LeAnne Rimes, Mo Mandel, Ramiro & Krazy Kulo from Jamn 94.5, E! News.
- The couple that brings their children under 17 to Rated R movies.
- Someone who makes/thinks you should choose sides.
- Someone who gets "mad at you" because you are "mad at them."
- Someone who tells people about your shortcomings behind your back...that you've told them.
- Someone who is friends with the douchebag and doesn't tell him he's a douchebag.
- Whoever changed the layout for iTunes.
- The person in the movie theater that sits one seat away from you when the entire theater is empty.
- Every driver that doesn't use a turn signal.
- Every driver that sees you coming down the street and waits till you're up close to them to turn.
What I began to realize is I spend far too much time on douchebags. Being nice. Being funny. Including them in my jokes both at home and work. 2013 I need to stop. I need to stop turning the other cheek and just simply walk away.
The past three days I have spent away from my house away from the original douchebags (my mother and half brother; oddly enough my mother is the only real female douchebag I've ever met). I did have a conversation with a friend this weekend. He was telling me the douchebaggery of a mutual friend. My jaw hit the floor. Some of the things this mutual friend was doing I just couldn't believe. Underhanded. Manipulative. I was in shock. My heart hurt over it. WHY do people do this?
A challenge for myself starting to day is ridding myself of douchebags. It's pretty easy to spot a douchebag too. As I sit here and go over the inventory of guys I'm friends with in my head I have at least 20 off the bat I need to dedouchebag myself from. This shall be my mission :)
Django Unchained
Simple enough right? Ah that's where you'd be wrong. Yes it could have ended up being the boy version of Kill Bill in western times, but instead it peppers enough slavery, the use of the N word, comedic lines, and surprises to be different. The Bride and Django have one thing in common: focus. They have a goal and damn anyone who gets in their way.
BUT I will say having watched Kill Bill Volumes 1 & 2 a billion times each there were some VERY clear copies. I won't give away the deets, but check it out.
Now for the parents out there with children under say 16 DO NOT TAKE YOUR KIDS! It's bloody, loud, and swearing PLUS there's nudity. Why such a disclaimer David? Well I'm glad you asked because there was a BABY with his parents there. A BABY! Whom cried every single time there was a loud part. Thankfully I was far enough away to not shake its parents to death, but I paid my $10.75 just like errbody else up in there. DON'T BRING NO BABY!
The Guilt Trip
Do you know why big time icons like Babs and Robert DeNiro do movies with Seth Rogen and Ben Stiller? It's not just the audience. It's about mass appeal. Rogen and Stiller appeal to a certain crowd that Babs and Bobby wouldn't be able to reach on their own. So playing their sidekick makes perfect sense. I'm 36 so I was a wee baby when Taxi Driver, Raging Bull, and The Godfather came out. But I tell you this the Meet the Parents franchise I know Robert DeNiro. Being openly gay I KNOW Barbra Streisand of course, but Seth Rogens fans probably don't...they will now.
Not only is Babs phenom in this movie as the overbearing, smothering, nosey mother which she plays to PERFECTION, but you wanna see what she does in every scene. How Seth can stand being around her. Joyce played by Barbra is a well-meaning mother to Andy played by Rogen. But something has to give right? And when Andy finally loses his shit on her he says exactly what the audience has been thinking. What you aren't prepared for is what she says back. That shocked me. My ONLY caveat with this film is in her big moment she doesn't explain why she's like this. Kind of but not fully. Her speech had me laugh outloud and I may have thought "YOU GO JOYCE" but I wanted more of a background I guess to understand her.
This is one of those movies you laugh from beginning to end. There is a reason not mentioned in the trailer why he invites her along and I personally enjoyed this movie from beginning to end. One of those movies where you want a sequel OR a mom like Joyce. Either way very funny movie. I highly recommend especially around the holidays!
The Hobbit: An Unexpected Journey
Of course this like the other this movie is 2 hours and 46 minutes and there isn't a dull moment at all. Every minute is consumed with lush cinematography, story story story, humor, set up for future films, and breathtaking special effects.
The plot is Bilbo is with a group to help a mission of securing a home. I don't want to give the plot away, but so amazing.
The characters are well rounded. They aren't just a bunch of loud mouth dwarves. I couldn't take my eyes off the screen except for when I had run out of popcorn and had to switch to Sour Patch Kids.
If you liked the first three Lord films then you will LOVE this. A few surprise cameos for those of us whom have watched the 9 hour trilogy back to back on more than one occasion. Worth the price of admission for anyone whom hasn't seen the first Lord films and want to start at the beginning. I predict another Oscar nomination from Sir Ian McKellan and Richard Armitage of Thorin blew me away. He's got an AMAZING future. He is basically Viggo Mortensen's character for this trilogy.
the one about my bloodline (the O'Quinns)
So for many years I was angry with my entire family. I think I cut them off when I was 15. I wrote my aunt a letter detailing why I was angry and how much I hated them all. Then in 2011 my entire world was rocked by Brett's death. I reevaluated some things and realized hating them solved nothing. I came to my aunt whom also happens to be my godmother's house and she and I had a long talk. We both apologized and moved on. Now that I am on the outs with my mother I realize I have more family than just her.
Jamie and her sisters are my family through and through. They've supported me, loved me, and been there for me soooooooooooo much. But my blood family is another part of me. A part of me I have forgotten and rediscovered last night. My mother was the youngest of 122 and some are not living. Her sister is my godmother. I was at her house tonight and lemme tell you it was awesome. My godbrother and godsister were there. My other aunt was there. My cousins. My three uncles. And we laughed and laughed and laughed. I actually think I got a headache from laughing. And my godsister's daughter-in-law!!!!!!!!!!!!! Love that girl. She is so country and probably the most like me in the family. She says exactly what's on her mind and got ZERO FILTER! I love her to pieces. And she's a good mom.
It's hilarious cuz I have two families yet both are so strong. Both love hard and fight hard although Jamie's family is a lot smaller.
My favorite part of the family is the gossip. Not gonna lie. I won't tell nobody's business or nothing, but DANG there's some gossip. Every person got it too. I love it. hahaha
Just one more reason I can't leave I guess.
Jamie and her sisters are my family through and through. They've supported me, loved me, and been there for me soooooooooooo much. But my blood family is another part of me. A part of me I have forgotten and rediscovered last night. My mother was the youngest of 122 and some are not living. Her sister is my godmother. I was at her house tonight and lemme tell you it was awesome. My godbrother and godsister were there. My other aunt was there. My cousins. My three uncles. And we laughed and laughed and laughed. I actually think I got a headache from laughing. And my godsister's daughter-in-law!!!!!!!!!!!!! Love that girl. She is so country and probably the most like me in the family. She says exactly what's on her mind and got ZERO FILTER! I love her to pieces. And she's a good mom.
It's hilarious cuz I have two families yet both are so strong. Both love hard and fight hard although Jamie's family is a lot smaller.
My favorite part of the family is the gossip. Not gonna lie. I won't tell nobody's business or nothing, but DANG there's some gossip. Every person got it too. I love it. hahaha
Just one more reason I can't leave I guess.
the one where I think long and hard about moving
So I have been thinking about my faults. If I am talking to my mother and half-brother about theirs I need to look in the mirror first. One thing of my many I realize is that I run when I get scared/upset/not trying to deal with something.
Fight HUGE blowout with Chris I ran from Boston to Springfield. Now that I have severed ties with my mother and half-brother I wanna run back to Boston. This is not only immature, but would be expensive.
Part of me also wants my life and independence back and everyone has said just move into a place in Springfield. No no no I want Boston. I haven't felt like my life is back to normal in Springfield because I haven't done the things necessary. I haven't gone to the movies on the reg. Out to dinner. Hung out with my friends here. Jetting back to Boston when things aren't perfect here will only prolong my agony from dealing.
The reason I moved back was not just to save money living at home, but to get closer to Jamie and her family after Brett died. To reconnect with the old me. I had just started dating someone in the area too around that time. I have gotten so close to Jamie's family...it's odd I grew up with them and figured I couldn't get any closer but with every death in their family or random dinner hangout I get closer and closer. And it's amazing cuz as kids I was JAMIE'S bestie, but now it's like I spend time with ALL of them. I got SUPER close to Mandee. She's like that though I blame her. Everyone in her life LOVES her to the point where we are obsessed with her hehe that's totes her fault. But Jamie and I have the same view on a lot of things. Ashley and I are tweens together. Each one of them brings out a different side of me. I ACHE that Brett isn't here. It just feels super weird.
The funniest part is there is a house across the street where my neighbor is renting his home. I've known him for 10 years I was thinking "awesome or awkward?" The scene of me leaving them and telling them to never talk to me again only to move across the street is both funny and disturbing...oddly enough I might consider it. It's a 3 bedroom home with 1 bath and garage. As long as I don't have to do manual labor lol But I do want an apt in a building. Part of me misses that alot. I dunno. Now that I'm staying my options are bountiful. I think this is the best decision.
Fight HUGE blowout with Chris I ran from Boston to Springfield. Now that I have severed ties with my mother and half-brother I wanna run back to Boston. This is not only immature, but would be expensive.
Part of me also wants my life and independence back and everyone has said just move into a place in Springfield. No no no I want Boston. I haven't felt like my life is back to normal in Springfield because I haven't done the things necessary. I haven't gone to the movies on the reg. Out to dinner. Hung out with my friends here. Jetting back to Boston when things aren't perfect here will only prolong my agony from dealing.
The reason I moved back was not just to save money living at home, but to get closer to Jamie and her family after Brett died. To reconnect with the old me. I had just started dating someone in the area too around that time. I have gotten so close to Jamie's family...it's odd I grew up with them and figured I couldn't get any closer but with every death in their family or random dinner hangout I get closer and closer. And it's amazing cuz as kids I was JAMIE'S bestie, but now it's like I spend time with ALL of them. I got SUPER close to Mandee. She's like that though I blame her. Everyone in her life LOVES her to the point where we are obsessed with her hehe that's totes her fault. But Jamie and I have the same view on a lot of things. Ashley and I are tweens together. Each one of them brings out a different side of me. I ACHE that Brett isn't here. It just feels super weird.
The funniest part is there is a house across the street where my neighbor is renting his home. I've known him for 10 years I was thinking "awesome or awkward?" The scene of me leaving them and telling them to never talk to me again only to move across the street is both funny and disturbing...oddly enough I might consider it. It's a 3 bedroom home with 1 bath and garage. As long as I don't have to do manual labor lol But I do want an apt in a building. Part of me misses that alot. I dunno. Now that I'm staying my options are bountiful. I think this is the best decision.
The Uninvited Guest
This is about a man whom thinks someone is living in the big house with him he used to share with his ex-girlfriend. Is there someone living with him? Or is he simply going crazy?
Towards the middle of the movie it takes a twist you didn't expect and you're wondering where it's going till the end.
The best part about this movie is the ending because you have no idea how to interpret it. I LOVE those movies. Like Inception was the top continuously spinning or was it about to topple over?
Why this hasn't been remade for American audiences is beyond me.
If you don't mind subtitles go to Netflix and check this out. You won't be disappointed.
Argo
Based on a true story about 6 Americans working in the Iranian consulate that must flee to Canadian embassy in Iran till they are rescued. The Iranians want America to give up a tyrannical former leader of Iran that has found solace in America while he's getting medical treatment. America said no. Ben Affleck plays the man from the CIA assigned to rescue them. The CIA gets approval from the President's office to have Ben pose as a movie producer, slip into Iran, give the 6 Americans their fake movie credentials, then slip out of Iran back to America. I was literally biting my nails over this. I didn't read up on this so I had no idea how it ended. What happened. Why. It was so suspenseful.
The only big whole was regarding the other 60 people taken hostage. The story focused on just the 6. If they had tied that up this would've been a perfect movie for me.
I give it 8 out of 10 stars. Ben will be dominated for Best Actor and Director. His direction was FLAWLESS!
Pitch Perfect
The storyline about a girl into music but not singing is forced to "enjoy" college with her cast of misfit friends. You figure out whom she'll end up no surprise. What is surprising is scene stealer Rebel Wilson can sing and dance. She's so naturally funny I wonder how it took so long for me to find her? Lol
The most surprising part is Skylar Astin. He looks so much like Dane Cook I kept getting confused when I watched scenes with him lol Good singer too very Finn Hudson.
I like that it has the stereotypes but breaks them. The fat girl isn't just funny guys like her. The dumb blond isn't dumb she's determined.
Highly recommend if you are in the mood to laugh.
the one about death all around me
So I've had to deal with alot of death lately. First Brett died last Feb then my cousin Kim a few months ago. Saturday we laid Ed to rest. And just as we laid Ed to rest found out my cousin Val died.
I have so much going on that dealing with four deaths is wiping me out. I made the decision to move back to Boston and it's like other things are happening to push me further towards it.
My half-brother and mother are not getting any better. My mother asked to borrow money from me for the cable bill and I said no. She gets $800/month in rent from me and my half-brother and STILL can't pay ish on time? Makes no sense. And my half-brother isnt paying her $$ this week. Well turns out he takes a ton of sick days from work so he gets lower pay. I keep this fact to myself as she would NEVER believe the truth.
And on top of this my exes are coming back around. Josh and David. Josh told me he didn't wanna date me because I was too queeny. And David wanted to date me but I bolted. Clearly David is the obvious choice, but he lives in FL. I told Bruce when we dated I woulda moved to FL if we got serious. Same would be true for David if we got serious.
Then Dr. Mike said he was moving to FL with his bf specifically Tampa where David lives.
I need to deal with one thing at a time.
I have so much going on that dealing with four deaths is wiping me out. I made the decision to move back to Boston and it's like other things are happening to push me further towards it.
My half-brother and mother are not getting any better. My mother asked to borrow money from me for the cable bill and I said no. She gets $800/month in rent from me and my half-brother and STILL can't pay ish on time? Makes no sense. And my half-brother isnt paying her $$ this week. Well turns out he takes a ton of sick days from work so he gets lower pay. I keep this fact to myself as she would NEVER believe the truth.
And on top of this my exes are coming back around. Josh and David. Josh told me he didn't wanna date me because I was too queeny. And David wanted to date me but I bolted. Clearly David is the obvious choice, but he lives in FL. I told Bruce when we dated I woulda moved to FL if we got serious. Same would be true for David if we got serious.
Then Dr. Mike said he was moving to FL with his bf specifically Tampa where David lives.
I need to deal with one thing at a time.
Wreck-It Ralph
I loved the originality of this story. An arcade villian wants to turn a new leaf. I see this as the next Toy Story franchise. Visuals were eyepopping. Dialogue was original.
The thing I didn't like was the formula. A brute guy. A lil girl sidekick. A quirky sidekick with an offbeat romance. It felt very "Despicable Me" in that sense.
Otherwise so good. Cannot wait for the sequels.
Lincoln
Daniel Day-Lewis plays Abraham Lincoln...enough said. Sally Field as Mary Lincoln. The entire thing is a classic movie. It is always nice seeing movies about subjects I don't know a ton about. Seeing the details.
If you want historical drama with a political premise check this adult contemporary drama out.
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